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Articles and tips that aim to help you with the relationship you have, or with one you hope to have in the future. Personal needs and communication with your partner will be the main focus.



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Small talk, professional or private, is meant here as a short conversation with someone you don´t know well. It can have different purposes such as “killing” the time, introducing yourself to someone, getting to know each other, sharing opinions, finding out answers to your questions.

By its nature, small talk involves building some mutual connection that can help both sides to feel more comfortable in the situation.

How do you become better at small talk?


How many people really listen to what you say?


When Dave Sumner Smith, the CEO at Next Dimension Media (a company operating many LinkedIn Groups), posed the question in a discussion, the most common number he heard was TWO.

What would be your answer? How many people in your life, do you believe, attentively listen to what you say and genuinely want to follow your thoughts?


This time I would like to recommend to you three non-fiction books I really like.

They talk about some of the main topics www.SmallBigChange.com is devoted to: working life, living abroad, and relationships.


There is something very natural in our need to make clear what is and what is not our fault in problematic situations and relationships. We want to know it ourselves, and we want to explain it to others, too.

However, you might easily discover that asking whose fault it was does not really lead you towards any improvement in the situation. That might be the time to move on, and ask yourself what your options are now and what you can do actively to make your situation better.


Let´s be honest: finding a compromise that both sides like is not always easy. The parties either cannot agree on anything, or they do but both feel like they gave up too much. Why does compromising so often fail, and how do you make a compromise that both of you will like?


When we lose somebody who was close to us, when somebody we loved has died, our world changes. It feels like nothing is going to be the same.  It might be the most demanding change one can face, full of emotions that can be very irrational and very strong.

This article includes a widely known psychological theory of loss and grief, and the phases our mind goes through after a loss. Maybe it will help you to better understand yourself or people around you that have lost a loved one.


Picture the following dialogue in a tense relationship:

A: Look, if you were different, things wouldn´t have got this bad. Sorry, but this is your fault: you are so stubborn!

B: You are so right. Now that you say it, I can see that it really is my fault. I am going to work on it from now on. Thanks for telling me and helping me improve.

Does that sound familiar to you? Unlikely. In real life, statement A will not lead to statement B.


My personal selection of the TED and TEDx videos that I find the most inspiring and would like to share with you.



“God grant me the serenity
To accept the things I cannot change,
Courage to change the things I can,
And wisdom to know the difference.”

Serenity Prayer, written by Reinhold Niebuhr


Some things in life are beyond our control, the rest we can influence. Too often, our energy is wasted on trying to change the things we cannot control, while overlooking the changes we could have made.


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